Retrospection

Long time. Many things come to my mind as i write this after long time and penning them down honestly is what this is all about. It’s Diwali and my first after marriage, also my first with no grand- parent in physical form to give blessings as all of them have progressed their journeys to being formless. I wish all, the ones with & without form a very happy, enlightening & blessed Diwali.

It is almost the year-end now and an important milestone to sit back and do some retrospection. This gives me the opportunity to do something that I truly love i.e. spend time with self. It is like re-unification with the soul after long journey. As I delve deeper, I come to know the difference between ‘Being self’ & ‘Being with self’. One has to know self to be self and that is where ‘Being with self’ matters. Self exploration is the task one should undertake frequently to know ourselves better, to make ourselves understand what are we comfortable with, what are the things that truly matter to us, to help us understand the deviations in you from the true you, to understand what satisfaction really means to you and to understand a point from where we should take cues for further journey. ‘Being with self’ will help you identify the true self & ‘Being self’ will instill in you the conviction & complete accountability of your actions. The key is to improve your true self by devoting yourself completely to almighty; this will ensure clear conscience. It is very critical to have clear conscience as same knowledge has different effect on different people depending on their upbringing, mannerism & innate nature. That signifies the upbringing nature of our next generation.

Coming back to my retrospection -this reminds me of a quotation “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans”. But no harm in taking cues from retrospection. I believe the retrospection should be a continuous process and one should not await any milestone to do it. I wish if I’d follow this going forward. I believe, best way to retrospect is to ask self, if i were to die this moment, then which category would this deed of mine count in..moral/immoral & the best way to fix anything wrong is to accept it immediately & apologize for it. Not always you will get time to fix the mistakes later. Well, to summarize retrospective for self, I wish if I could utilize time more efficiently for that is the most important but irrevocable asset that I spend cheaply & consistently.

Once again wishing all a very enlightening & blessed Diwali!

Not satisfied with own behaviour?

Sometimes we are unhappy with our own behaviour towards people. While some of us try to introspect this part of the behaviour, others feel bad momentarily and let it go. You will be amazed with the findings if we introspect the way things happened and our reactions expressed in those situations.

The first and foremost being, our responses in that situation are build on reaction of the others. If our responses are build on others reaction then how do we expect to be our self in public? Our true personality will never come out if our behaviour is based on reactions expressed by others. While its true, we'll react to situations as and when they come across, but its very important that they should originate our true personality. Its very important to be aware of your inner self while we come across situations in life. By doing so, you will be more confident, calm, comfortable & convinced while responding back. Do this for yourself as this will bring you inherent satisfaction & happiness with no traces of grief/repentance.


The other part of feeling unhappy about ourselves is, we try to do somethings for our loved ones at the cost of our own happiness. For e.g. Husband/in-laws of a woman want her to give up on career and sit at home. She does so for their happiness while she still feels bad within. Momentarily that will make her loved ones happy but in the longer run, say 10 years later they will still be unhappy about it because of the unhappy energy that woman will consistently transmit as she feels the unhappiness within. And how can a person be happy with someone who is transmitting unhappy energy for long time. Relationships are not all about actions. Success in them mainly depends on the energies you transmit in them. These energies significantly depend on your inherent happiness. And anything that you do against inclination of your true self will not bring you happiness in longer run. And this unhappiness saps the positive energy exponentially resulting in pain,grief & frustration. There is a basic rule about true happiness. It comes only from WITHIN. So if you want happiness of your loved ones, make sure YOU are happy in first place.


Identify your true self & be yourself in any situation of life. Your true self will expose intrinsic nature of the soul within that is of love, peace, happiness, truth, bliss, purity. Therefore, souls always desire for experiences of these
qualities. These are the qualities that naturally emerge when the soul is aware of itself, or in other words, is soul-conscious..

Wishing all a very blessed life!
||Jai Sri Ram||